after we go extinct, nature will reconquer the earth.
"We are merely spectators"
Singaporean thing number 472: BBQ stingray at Boon Lay hawker centre. I remember when Anthony took me there after a movie we went to. This girl is way cooler though.
The wedding ring
If you read a travel guide for women, one of the most commonly found pieces of advice is to wear a wedding ring to detract attention from yourself when traveling in lesser developed countries. Before I left on exchange, my school had a pre-departure session that gave precisely that piece of advice. I’ve been trying to form my thoughts around the issue and why exactly I am not okay with it.
1. It makes a mockery of the beautiful idea of marriage
Before I left, I joked with my ex at the time about how I would wear his promise ring on my left hand as a wedding ring. Because he knows me so well, he immediately said “you say that but there’s no way you would do it. You value the institution of marriage too much to ever make it a joke.”
2. It gives power away from you as a woman and transfers it onto the male gender
This is the big one. It is the same idea as girls who say “I have a boyfriend” instead of saying “I’m not interested”. The latter states “even though I’m a woman, you need to respect my decision that I am not interested in you, regardless of what barriers prevent us from being together. I do not want to be with you.” whereas the former passes off the respect that you deserve and simply states “I already belong to another man. Respect him, and leave me alone”. Get it? You shouldn’t need a man to make someone respect your choices as a woman. You should get that all on your own.
3. It may not a solution to your problem
If you are traveling in a country with different values than yours (probably more conservative), act within the lines. Assess your environment and act within them to avoid terrible situations as much as possible, instead of just having back up plans. And of course, terrible things and unwanted attention may happen regardless of your caution, but saying that you are married probably won’t work.
I realized today that my lab report is due….. Today. This is where I’m spending the night, chugging out the report :( best roomie ever, and some nicely dressed ukulele playing Singaporeans (it’s their formal today)
Last night I went to the High Commissioner of Canada (Her Excellency Heather Grant)’s house which is the official residence of Canada for a U Waterloo event. It was an incredibly large mansion and made me feel like home. I was so glad to mingle with so many other Canadians and meet Waterloo alumni